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Finding Love as a Single Father
I’ve found myself processing a lot of grief and anger over the last couple weeks.
It’s par for the course whenever I enter a new relationship. The frustration I feel over the dissonance between my life now and what I always envisioned for myself brings me to my knees as I sit in the uncomfortable reality of living two lives.
In one life, I am like a boy again, blissfully enamored with a new partner, the two of us enjoying all the radiant glory of New Relationship Energy. But in the other, I am all too mature; a responsible single father of three children, dutifully carrying the burden of executive leadership and child-rearing all at the same time.
In my younger days, it was always my mode of being to jump with both feet into whatever new adventure came my way. It was by this volition that I found myself working in world-class recording studios in Nashville, or touring the country as a musician, or quickly married with one child and another on the way.
Suffice it to say that neither commitment nor haste have been my foes when embarking on new paths.
And perhaps it is this tendency for me that actually causes the most mental and emotional strain when I enter a new relationship while…
