Hi Casey! Thanks so much for sharing your opinions here! I think conversation is how we learn and grow and stretch our minds and I appreciated hearing your thoughts.

I’m sure shame and the eventual shedding of guilt has something to do with it. I’m sure not watching porn is also not the only reason for these changes. It’s all a vast spectrum made up of countless factors, right? And truthfully we’ll never actually know exactly why certain experiences are different from others.

My point here is that through a LOT of self work in this area over years and years and with many different partners, and through my own coming to acceptance of porn being neither objectively good or bad, there have been a handful of impacts of porn on my life that I find difficult to ascribe to anything else, and I’ve come to these conclusions through a tireless critical thinking approach. Could there remain shreds of fallacy or confirmation bias? Absolutely. Is my Puritan Christian upbringing still casting a certain tone over my experiences in spite of efforts to cast it off? Certainly. Still, it’s worth talking about, and I don’t think we do ourselves any favors by downplaying the possible implications of widespread consumption of hardcore porn.

Thanks again for sharing your insights here!